Fifty-fourth - how to enhance training the competitiveness of connections ( two)
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Chapter 6 Maintenance colleague
If the core network of resources is the center, while the core network of people as the center outward extension, we can also find a close network of resources. Close network of resources in the workplace, I am afraid that our colleagues in the In many cases, your promotion or work satisfactorily completed and your coworkers are closely related, so the level of your bonus or salary is actually also by his colleagues. Therefore, co-workers can be said that a dense layer of your workplace network resources, their total impact on your wealth in a way!
Manage colleagues in this network of people is not easy, and colleagues are neither relatives nor friends, family, colleagues and there is no friendship, and the complexity of the relationship is not to say that hard to get along with, smart people there is always the way to my colleagues into one of us as part of a network of resources, upgrade their own wealth.
So, how to create their own colleagues a network of wealth?
First of all, you should know as equals and colleagues. And colleagues, a premise of equality, whether it is a vocational high school first-class veteran or new entrants to the novice, and should absolutely abandon the unequal relationship, to feel arrogant or feel low self-esteem are among colleagues get along with the taboo. Only, and colleagues as equals in order to create a harmonious relationship between colleagues, harmonious relationship between colleagues is very good. Do this very simple, that is, to my colleagues as a working partner, friends in life, do not board in the office with a face and let people think you Zimingqinggao disdain and coexistence.
Secondly, we must know how to seize the great difficulty of the scene of the deterioration of relations between colleagues. For example, when colleagues in person for promotion, salary increase, or when faced with these problems. In fact, no matter who encounter this problem, the relationship between colleagues can become very vulnerable. You need to do, can only be a raise no matter who get promoted, we must put aside yourself of vanity, to concentrate on work. Do not learn to play games, play skills, but never give up the chance to compete with colleagues fair, do not change yourself because of someone else's rhetoric.
If you really feel themselves and their colleagues is difficult to get along, but in fact you do not have to hurt. At this point, perhaps the colleague is also this thing and anxiety! Should learn to be honest with colleagues, when they encounter problems, be sure to empathize with each other think about this way, the dispute often can be nipped in the bud. If you have been others to attack, you must be tolerant. This world that simply said complex, a gentleman and will certainly be a villain. Therefore, we are talking in good faith does not mean nothing to retain, come clean. Colleagues you do not understand very best to have reservations, do not put all his private life have to tell each other.
I remember an expert has said the words, to get along and colleagues, the highest level is to always put others when good people, but always remember the impossible are good for everyone. You may think this is a troublesome problem, in fact, these are not what the problem is, the key is how these basic more than we speak, the most critical issues and timing of a good grasp and take appropriate action, which increase their network wealth. Specific to the details to get along and colleagues, should note the following:
Tolerance Just like the invisible fire to melt the grievances of the earth, swords into plowshares, and to complain gap into a friendship. Colleagues due to objective reasons inevitably be some friction, which would be tolerant to adjust. Know how tolerant people, never care about. The hearts of these people can be tolerant of others, and know how to respect others.
Personally ask each other questions. Some people like to colleagues behind that is not, in fact, this may well not necessary, the saying goes, not an unventilated wall, your words will one day spread to the ears of others, so hurt you. Your contacts wealth will be some impact. Therefore, regardless of who views must face raised, not the finger poke in the back, so easy to hurt feelings.
Chaos snitch. Sometimes, perhaps you find a colleague to make some things that hurt the credibility of the company, you will be immediately reported to the boss, the boss must be very happy, because for him to restore the loss. But we are advocating is chaos snitch, not to say that can not play, but that can not be swatting. That is to have the fact that according to, and the problem is more serious, a direct impact on the reputation and interests of the company, call too late. Chaos snitch can always find many reasons to report it, something like this once okay, more often not only colleagues, even the boss will hate you. In fact, a lot of time to get along and colleagues to know how to "forbearance step to a brighter future calm, so that one-third." Noble words to deal with the relationship between colleagues. Let us under the premise of principled, open-minded, ushering in an era of our benevolence, and tolerance of our colleagues, friends, relatives and lovers.
Whether and colleagues what had happened, we must first think is not wrong, if you determine their own right, then they would stand on each other's point of view, to experience each other's feelings. At the same time, to know how their own efforts to adapt to the environment, rather than allowing the environment to adapt to you. Although this is a very painful process, but telling your contacts accumulation of wealth is very good. Therefore, the process of getting along and colleagues, you learn to be generous, if you care for their generous very generous, do not want to have to pretend to be generous. Only of benefit to you absolutely.
Know how to low-key work. Some people like sesame big achievements to brag about how big a thing, and then go around preaching. In fact, this is most colleagues look down on and do not like, after all, everyone at work, who have a score, why advocating for the results of that little bit? The low-key point there is nothing wrong with not only not to their enemies, but also to make their work more confidently. So you not only like by superiors, colleagues will respect you more and more wealth for your network of contacts coupled with a tile.
Of course, we here speak of a low-key is not to encourage you to do the old cattle that focusing instead on hard work, but do not own achievements and splash. Colleagues should be transformed into a point of view, and colleagues, mouth sweet to know how to praise others, because your praise always makes people produce feelings of euphoria, but to maintain a certain degree, do not praise over the people aversion . If you really can not praise others, it would keep the most basic courtesy. Met with my colleagues want to make a greeting such as, say hello to looking at each other's eyes, to make people feel for your kind.
Whether you are experienced and older employees, or out at first glance to novice must maintain Shaoyueduozuo style of work. To do so is to enhance the wealth of contacts the most basic protection of gratitude is the most beneficial to you to enhance the wealth of contacts means and methods, because of your Thanksgiving each other can understand, the other will be your grateful and touched, and thus more like to help you. Of course, in the process of getting along and colleagues, we should pay attention Do not promise to each other, others do not put your commitment to always keep in mind.
Chapter 7 contacts management tips
Draw contacts MAP has not the original that not prepared for the future to seek help before the establishment of interpersonal times. Today's society we call "interpersonal relationships" not only stay in the "know" each other, but also more than maintain the relationship with classmates and fellow. More than a little care to the people around friendship and affinity for the people to determine, and travel frequently to communicate, to make your life more colorful ... This is the basis of the network of people we really need.
Saying so, in order to systematically manage their own network, then it is best to first start from an inventory of their existing interpersonal status. Inventory work the most objective and most systematic way is to draw a map of the network of people. If the review only in the brain, it is inevitable there will be errors, can not accurately see your current interpersonal situation. Again, if you draw the map of the network of people, then can one grasp the network of contacts in what areas of inadequate.
Drawing the map of contacts, first draw a circle on their own behalf, and this circle as the center, their relationships to the classification of "family member" Friends "colleague" radially arranged around. In this case, their own in the end piece of the field of interpersonal good piece of children poor interpersonal relationships in the field is very clear. And activities in the field who need help the most. Well, now, please prepare an A4 paper and a pen, according to the following tips to draw their own network map.
First stage: "I draw more than one branch, and the relationships of classification to draw up a circle, representing the" I ", then this round draw for the center branch, branch number and match the number of interpersonal classification own interpersonal categories were filled to the various branches. Interpersonal relationships to the "family" friends "colleagues" in this standard classification, first probably divided into 10 categories, then each category of a small subdivision. With pictures such as Figure 91. More detailed table can refer to the author of the examples cited in section 92, 93.
Year, the best network of people around the map twice finishing. For example, the author's situation in early December each year and early June will be a network of map drawing. Because I believe that the map of the network of people in early December on the year's interpersonal situation summary map of the network of people in early June you may say as interannual middle of the first, so necessary. Of course, because everyone is different, so you should choose the most suitable for their time. But not necessarily twice a year. Is also a good way to draw in accordance with the inter-annual. Draw a map of a year-end contacts the New Year as the old year summary to help you and you help people to send greeting cards, and then or a year, map finishing in a network of more than 2 times. This is to grasp the interpersonal state standard.
If you have to write the daily notes of the contacts management habits, can draw the map of a network of management in a notebook First, this will always remind you of interpersonal adjustment, your relationships continue to be replenished and repair.
Phase II: analysis after the completion of a network of resource contacts map to figure relationships to make a simple evaluation. Bring you much impact as you quoted relationships and the closeness of an individual's how. Then analyze the relationships of that time to good or there are any questions, do some self-praise and self-examination. Please answer the following questions, and hope that we do while the theme to be more specific analysis of their network resources.
Contact management tips a past relationships you have at any time about to come out to help you solve problems you can talk about anything you?
With the original relationship between students how?
Contact relationship with former colleagues or your career?
What festivals and others? And that there needs to meet the personal things?
Now how interpersonal and colleagues now? Get along well? Work by others to trust? Who have hostile relations and their own?
And had had business contacts with their still kept in touch?
Do you participate in occupational areas where the social circle? In that social circle is in what position? In that social circle was active in it? You are the person in charge or the leader in that social circle?
Have you participated in your personal areas of concern to or about your personal interests, activities or social circle?
The third stage: Be sure not to forget to familiarize yourself with the people they want to know everyone veins map should not only remember the next family, friends, colleagues, and must remember they want to know famous people. Regardless of the well-known politician, radio figure, as long as necessary, at any time to look for him to meet with.
The idea, then go to practice, practice, and interpersonal relationships will be formed. There is no need to think too complex, the old push it back. Especially for the young generation of 20-year-old Korean. I listed the list of people recently to see side. I want whenever I want to see him (her) side. And now this practice. Do not hesitate to list their own to see a list of persons, will be realized!
To pick up the broken relationships "rare". When in a vacuum environment, we strongly feel the preciousness of the air; when the world becomes dark, we learned the importance of the sun; Similarly, when desperate, we can wake up: the original relationships is so important. Interpersonal relationship in fact is not often refers to looking for a stranger with their form a friend. Friends, colleagues, teachers there have been at your side may be a variety of reasons, and you lose contact, and you are now in the eyes of contacts objectives have equal importance, the same should become a huge network of contacts in your personal relationships resources. So treasure them regain and the link between them. This new set up a network of equally excellent. Even now, can not directly see them, you can also fight for the opportunity to meet with them by telephone, letter or e-mail, simple and convenient way. I hope the flexibility to use the tools of modern information society.
However, when in contact with an old friend of many years, should pay attention to this point. Seen for many years suddenly come to a contact (and often passionate), from the other side's point of view, usually puzzled than pleased. For example, "Do want me to buy insurance?", "Does not want me to give him what guarantees" the suspicion will be followed. The illusion will be prejudiced, created major obstacles to the exchange between you and your friends. Lost contact for a long time, people can easily go back to the familiar level, but the feeling of being used because it is easy to give. Before contacting old friends, the best re-read the management philosophy of the previously mentioned seven kinds of contacts again, and see an old friend of the moment, as seen in a TV show, friendly called out ", an old friend, long time no see!"
So what about the most appropriate to meet old friends, it? Although it is difficult to give a definitive answer, but holidays like New Year or Christmas period should be a good time to contact an old friend. Naturally to the other party to send a card or greeting cards, ask the current situation, certainly received the other equally sincere greetings and good wishes. If there is no time to meet with each other, often send e-mail or SMS is also good, What is the connection stronger 10 times, 100 times. Because the practice is more important than anything. Up from the usual little bit of care to start building relationships it will be more solid. Care mentioned here refers to the other party will not be allowed to produce affordable help. If you insist on giving six times to accept the "attitudes and other exchanges, they could eventually build unbreakable clock network.
Never to 40, 50-year-old period to regain this has been broken relationships, because then it becomes difficult to almost its difficult. In today's society, more and more people prefer to be with the younger generation of 20-year-old during the exchanges. Because the interaction with the 20-year-old period of the younger generation is a real cordial exchanges do not need to care about the conditions and environment. As, in the us and the small, high school students to meet, will feel very happy, because it makes us think of 5 years, 10 years ago, The Age of Innocence.
Build your own online personal space, to make friends is not only a trend, or an effective management of contacts through an online personal space. Through an online personal space, you can blink time to the country and the world in every corner of people know what can be described as a unique means of propaganda. And the most special is that this propaganda tool is absolutely not affected by time and geographical constraints.
On the Internet, regardless of the men and women can be anywhere at any time and have a common hobby interest to exchange and share information. You can easily and each other become close, become friends, do not take into account issues such as whether you give the other party to provide information valuable.
Chapter 8 contacts management utility 6 strokes
Contacts management philosophy: In order to find more topics, as much as possible to read materials in various fields of knowledge and the conversations of others is an opportunity. Accumulation of experience, master the techniques to seize the conversation atmosphere. More contact with attractive people, and actively learn from them as much as possible to the party.
The young people of South Korea's 20-year-old period, up to now, you have participated He kind of party? Do you have experience in gathering themselves? If you have never had this experience, you should peruse this book more than three times, and conscientiously put into practice according to the book said. However, most of the period of 20-year-old young people in school or work process, whether voluntary or in accordance with the meaning of others, should have participated in dozens of wide variety of gatherings. This is a lot of people preferred a method of expanding interpersonal contacts. Because the party can communicate with many people the opportunity to get a lot of information.
Recently, Internet-centric online personal space and online forums are very popular. Most Internet users who visit online forums online and participate in various activities of the Forum to know each other, and then organize the party out of the network in real life, and meet each other. Try to join the forum of interest, in order to establish online interpersonal relationships. As usual to participate in the party interest, flat mentality and actively participate in and be familiar with this means of communication. If it is taboo to this online forum to make friends then, through the recommendation of friends or acquaintances to participate in similar forms of party it does not matter. This gathering of friends in person test has been confirmed, so its reliability and effectiveness of it will be even greater.
In addition to expand your interpersonal circle in a variety of party, should have a certain purpose. Because the purpose of gathering not the exchange, but simply to stay on the low level of "chat". Such gatherings is difficult to sustainable gone out of existence. Must be borne in mind, not the spirit of the thin "should expand the interpersonal circle," the purpose of communicating with others, as will be easily and to generate alert mental. So the party, we must always remember that only a show true to establish reliable relationships with each other.
At the party about the following purposes:
Business-related purposes from among the party to find the purpose of self-worth with others, the purpose of sharing information is not particularly clear sense of purpose, no matter what want to try to try a variety of purposes of the above comparison, four more extend the life of the party, the party long gone out of existence.
To only focus on the immediate interests of long-term perspective in interaction with others is the right way. The base of a network of management "and appreciate each other" attitude. On the basis of trust and appreciation of the exchange of information with each other, help each other is sensible.
A network of management philosophy: as much as possible to the party, including the gathering of friends or acquaintances not only for the purpose of immediate interest to the party, many people are in order to meet their own immediate interests to think about building relationships. So most people do not have any plans in interpersonal communication, only to think before going to their advantage when interacting with others. Interpersonal most taboo is purely for the benefit of to "use" of interpersonal relationships. Such behavior and even let you now have connections to instant collapse, fall short.
On how to establish good interpersonal this problem, many people are baffled. Often meet others, also out for a drink, why no result? In fact, to meet and drink is not critical, the most important thing is to meet or drink with each other sincere. If there is no sincere exchange of words, regardless of experience with what, there will not be much sense; regardless seen once or dozens of face, the other will want to "Why should I meet with this person?" You both to meet the meaning of the heart is suspected. Best embodies the authenticity of this meet is natural not artificial movements in the exchange.
The majority of people in line with the principle of "selfish", even though the initial meeting with others, and very easy to fall into the whirlpool of self-centered, you can not make people trust. This is because too eager to obtain. Should be aware of the pay after the return is the truth. In other words, only a lower profile given to others, in order to obtain the corresponding return from others.
Lower profile, for the sake of each other "should learn to care and listen to the start.
A network of management philosophy: learning to their idols around you that allows you to issue such a sigh, "How can so extensive as that individuals as well as contacts A"? If so, put that person as the object of imitation. He will have a great influence. In general, the ability of others to imitate objects can give you that direction to establish interpersonal relationships, and mastery of specific areas of expertise, organized party cohesion can be said that strongman family.
If there are such people around, or have access to such people, which will become a great advantage for you to establish interpersonal relationships.
First of all, if the surrounding particularly powerful contacts management experts, to him as his idol, and imitate him. Learn how interpersonal relationships, how to treat others, the call should be to comply with what etiquette and contact management practice. Is still in embryonic form in the vein network of the 20-year-old period, should learn to imitate others, and the formation of the administrator of a similar pulse mode. Because this mode after others certainly is faster to establish a good network of shortcuts.
Side worthy of imitation, if not give you much good luck, but certainly not let you down. If there is no such person should be good to find and close to its 3 tips close to the idol. Here are three tips is not a recognized tips or principles, but is also essential to understand matters.
3 tips close to the idol looking for one worthy of imitation? Want to, do not wait any longer, do actively seeking preparation. "No you can not," with a sense of urgency to go close to them. Directly or indirectly, to tell them how important it is for you, they. Good, let us now with this mood and determined to learn the specific guidelines for how close to the idol!
E-mail or write to introduce themselves to the idol of their choice is the most important thing to him. If the person who you are do not know, let each other to give you guidance on the management of the network of people, too inconsiderate. Of course, even if you do self-introduction, the other side of you not familiar with even ignorant, in this case, enabling the exchange to smooth down the way is to write a letter or e-mail. Although personally since the letter of the book's most effective, but sending mail is also a good way. "What is more concerned about, I do not know how you see it? Want to hear your opinion or advice so you wrote this letter and other forms can. But also in the letter should briefly introduce yourself.
Close to the idol through direct or indirect introduction easy and can make their idols to produce a deep impression on their own way is through direct or indirect introduction. Require indirect introduction to each other, you can also find each other in places such as schools or seminars in person directly to introduce yourself to people they know. Introduced by others, contact idol greatest benefit is to introduce to you the highlights your strengths. Of course, this time there is a problem in order not to introduce you and your worship disappointed, you should lead by example.
Easily and briefly for the first time to meet the first meeting is not necessary Exhausted. Finally saw his idol would like a little longer and his mood is understandable, but should be aware of interpersonal like food. There should be slowly savor its taste and incense of such pursuits.
If you have been kept saying things makes the great burden of sitting there for a long time, but will have a great reaction. Just say a few words like "take up your valuable time I am sorry," a simple greeting, and let him remember you on the line. Should be important after this. Interpersonal relationships after the first meeting is really tricky. With others to build relationships is a protracted war. Must not be anxious.
Let us easily into battle. Chew every word said by own example, even though he gently over the area. You will harvest most of the words. If possible, try to recognize other people through the introduction of the idols. 99% of the idol introduce people are as good as your idol, or a better person. Why do people want to meet other people this way? The following examples will be described the introduction of an important figure and the importance of their mutual understanding.
A network of management philosophy: good at giving and accepting the fundamental path of a network of management is "Give and Take (giving and receiving)". People usually pay after will want to get something, or get from elsewhere will want to give each other what. This is the normal psychology of the people. The psychological management of the network of people, this "give and receive" certainly applies. Network of people do not "from the other side there?" Such a standard to evaluate each other, and should cultivate that person and I can give each other each other? "Management philosophy. Contacts management, tend to "give" or "accepting" any party will not be tolerated.
Although no distinction or distinction in the career, but in highly educated people have this master may be on the society of the city cleaner, the employment situation is obvious is very serious. At present, differences in ability between people is getting smaller and smaller, the competitiveness and influence of the interpersonal relationship is good or bad start to reveal the head and feet and are growing wider. In such a social situation, the solid and extensive relationships is no doubt that the weapons of the people in the hands of the most convincing.
If a good grasp of the weapon, then obviously both sides are very favorable. So learn to give and accept it. Accepted must be given to double. Made a big open secret "contacts management of people's", Jinnan Xi president of the guests introduced a network of management of the essence of the four rules can be described as a network of management.
Related to the management of the network of people giving and accepting the concept of the need to pay attention to the point. Even if you think some of your "circle Azeri" is not what you need, please comply with the minimum etiquette in front of them. Because maybe in the future, you will need them. If the rash to treat them, then it is easy to make between you and misunderstanding, and later to save too late. To be fair and you have contacts for each individual, and often give them greetings and caring.
The CEO of a large U.S. companies have said such a thing, "if others give more than the expectations of others, you will be more than you expect.
A network of management philosophy: not asking for anything to help others whether we accept the little things or big help of others, or under someone else's favor, we will say "the other day owe a certain human feelings, the next must also the job "or" before ** introduced certain to me, really helped me a great big favor, "and other similar words. This priceless debt help is with money can not be measured. In other words, this debt is to the people around without paying for best. "Because of personal feelings, and help others." Casual help this idea is wrong.
Without asking the spirit of helping others is very important. To really to do in practice so it is not easy, so be able to do without asking the people will gradually emerge in the crowd and the last champion. Others on this try to dedicate admiration for granted. Some people may think that this is not asking for anything to try to dedicate the spirit of ordinary people is difficult to have, because people are selfish. But in fact help others is no loss of profit, as long as a common attitude towards these do extraordinary things. If you are not asking for anything to help others you do not have a loss, why not? I give 1% of each other with the help of maybe will become 99% of each other the power. And counterproductive forces will redouble back.
Should also do so: if not you are responsible, should also like to treat themselves the things that make every effort to assist each other in the school or company. To keep in mind, to help others should not be asking for anything. Because they help others, while the other side to return to their own words or eyes is absolutely not. Do not say any such words, there will be recycling 200% of the effect, but such words or do these eyes, the recycling effect will be reduced by 50%. So do not be silly. The mentality has not asking for anything to help others is the most beautiful and precious thing in human relations.
Contacts management philosophy the passionate accumulation of contacts to do anything, if not full of enthusiasm, then take the first step is very difficult. Interpersonal relationships, too, the positive and enthusiastic attitude towards the establishment of interpersonal relationships first step has a vital role. But after reading this book can really do such people have several? If you are aware of the need for management of contacts, then showed his enthusiasm and sincerity, whether the early accumulation in the network of people has become the most important key to open the contacts management door.
Should first have the idea that "interpersonal really is necessary. I sincerely hope that at any time with the inscription to make friends". Waiting for someone to introduce a friend to you, or think is the end of interpersonal relationships with others to meet the number of meetings the same with the number of friends, etc. are wrong. Just simply shake hands with others reversed the practice of the card does not work on interpersonal
When interacting with others, should be enthusiastic, to achieve once the opportunity arises, they can apart from anything else stepped forward to accost the degree of job. Let's look at an interesting example. Most of the Korean will not take a train or aircraft with the stranger next to say a word, like the enemy, the whole trip abruptly there. But some other countries, asked to strangers sitting next to a good or simply chat to a few, are very common phenomenon. In fact, by train, bus or plane the middle of that trip of several hours is an excellent opportunity to build relationships, but we are not aware of nothing. For example, about 10-20 minutes after starting, simply ask each other where to go, Where is that place where relatively fun an easy topic, you can perk up the whole atmosphere. Conversation, eat some snacks, and after the end of the conversation, read a book, listen to music, neither will be a burden, but also make the entire journey to become relaxed and happy together. Such as occasional overseas travel in order to change the mood, they can and people with destinations such chat. Regular journey dialogue allows you to such things no longer feel so embarrassed, and gradually become natural to them.
I had a few years alone to go to Moscow to play and. The plane trip there, I like most Korean quiet seated. Aircraft to take off after a few minutes, the gentleman sitting next to him suddenly whispered in English asked the sentence better. I heard the other to speak in English, first threw a Jiling very nervous. Later found out the other side is the original Japanese, so they slightly relax a little, also asked in English. Then in broken English with each other between the author and who the Japanese will start a dialogue, although the two sides talked very strenuous, but the author, this really is a both interesting and meaningful travel.
That travel is one thing so I was very moved. Was the first to go to Moscow travel, and alone, so I worry about from the airport to the city section of track, I do not know, in unfamiliar circumstances, how to walk the distance. Sitting next to the gentleman know, they say in the city, he has been booking a hotel, will start to set out his past, and said that if there is no relationship, and go with him. So I will be very easy to solve this troubled by the problems of their own for a long time. Later I learned that the guests Japanese acorn County, a lawyer. I also now a year and his friend several times the e-mail exchanges, mutual ask current situation. Thing, I understand, even the small time we met, it should be warm treatment. 20-year-old younger generation should be borne in mind that sincerity can affect even metal and stone, learn enthusiasm of others.
Tip a network of management errors corrected I know people are introduced to somebody, I will not be jeopardized?
Too many people cherish established relationships that do not want to know the person to others, because they usually there is no such psychological "I introduced after they recognize the relationship between them than the relationship between me and closer to how to do? " In fact, this is a misunderstanding. The impression of professional consultants Li Zongshan said relationships are muscle, ie, the texture is more detailed and less likely to be torn between them to connect more closely force more powerful. So when should not hesitate to do they turn their acquaintances to others, because your "generous" you can make your relationships more developed.
Wine and golf, the viewer is not aware that it will destroy your relationships!
Wine and golf. Many people will think this is the best way to establish interpersonal relationships. But do not forget it is also possible to become "the worst". A smart businessman does not generally simple in order to enhance the feelings and the other with each other to drink or play golf. In order to properly "evaluate" and "judge" the other side. Because if the wine is drunk, or lost in the game of golf, do not use rational thinking and vision to observe each other. True to the cause of mistakes, regret it can not buy. So wine and golf, sometimes irreparable, "the worst way."
Listen to the little story
[Story] one silver during the war, a young soldier rushed to the battlefield on his way to save the one you want the woman committed suicide by jumping into a river after the woman was put ashore, not only did not thank the young people, and blame the youth to harm her living death under the youth repeatedly asked women talents tells heartbroken himself: that her husband was being entrapped by imprisonment, at home, leave the Diocese of the elderly and sick, and three of their starving the little children need to serve the dependents, it is regrettable utterly destitute, poor cone stand, had to pawn the only clothing got a silver, treatment of the mother's festering, that know the leaking drain every rain, treacherous businessmen fake silver deceive her, cut off in this way out home, but a death in order to break.
Youth after listening to spontaneously rise compassion, said to her: "You happened to be too compassionate, I have a silver dollar, you get back to settle the family in order to prevent another hazard as well as others, to leave of silver to me! "youth took the fake silver, inadvertently pick a release, the expedition went to the body pocket.
Happened to play in a fierce war, the hail of bullets under a bullet to shoot in the chest of young people to the site stood a fake silver, fake silver sag down, but to save the life of youth, the youth so clapping and praise, said: so worth the dollar was the daughter of hard to change ah! "youth due to the good of an idea, a silver dollar to save the woman's family, but also for their own earn back the second half of life.
If the core network of resources is the center, while the core network of people as the center outward extension, we can also find a close network of resources. Close network of resources in the workplace, I am afraid that our colleagues in the In many cases, your promotion or work satisfactorily completed and your coworkers are closely related, so the level of your bonus or salary is actually also by his colleagues. Therefore, co-workers can be said that a dense layer of your workplace network resources, their total impact on your wealth in a way!
Manage colleagues in this network of people is not easy, and colleagues are neither relatives nor friends, family, colleagues and there is no friendship, and the complexity of the relationship is not to say that hard to get along with, smart people there is always the way to my colleagues into one of us as part of a network of resources, upgrade their own wealth.
So, how to create their own colleagues a network of wealth?
First of all, you should know as equals and colleagues. And colleagues, a premise of equality, whether it is a vocational high school first-class veteran or new entrants to the novice, and should absolutely abandon the unequal relationship, to feel arrogant or feel low self-esteem are among colleagues get along with the taboo. Only, and colleagues as equals in order to create a harmonious relationship between colleagues, harmonious relationship between colleagues is very good. Do this very simple, that is, to my colleagues as a working partner, friends in life, do not board in the office with a face and let people think you Zimingqinggao disdain and coexistence.
Secondly, we must know how to seize the great difficulty of the scene of the deterioration of relations between colleagues. For example, when colleagues in person for promotion, salary increase, or when faced with these problems. In fact, no matter who encounter this problem, the relationship between colleagues can become very vulnerable. You need to do, can only be a raise no matter who get promoted, we must put aside yourself of vanity, to concentrate on work. Do not learn to play games, play skills, but never give up the chance to compete with colleagues fair, do not change yourself because of someone else's rhetoric.
If you really feel themselves and their colleagues is difficult to get along, but in fact you do not have to hurt. At this point, perhaps the colleague is also this thing and anxiety! Should learn to be honest with colleagues, when they encounter problems, be sure to empathize with each other think about this way, the dispute often can be nipped in the bud. If you have been others to attack, you must be tolerant. This world that simply said complex, a gentleman and will certainly be a villain. Therefore, we are talking in good faith does not mean nothing to retain, come clean. Colleagues you do not understand very best to have reservations, do not put all his private life have to tell each other.
I remember an expert has said the words, to get along and colleagues, the highest level is to always put others when good people, but always remember the impossible are good for everyone. You may think this is a troublesome problem, in fact, these are not what the problem is, the key is how these basic more than we speak, the most critical issues and timing of a good grasp and take appropriate action, which increase their network wealth. Specific to the details to get along and colleagues, should note the following:
Tolerance Just like the invisible fire to melt the grievances of the earth, swords into plowshares, and to complain gap into a friendship. Colleagues due to objective reasons inevitably be some friction, which would be tolerant to adjust. Know how tolerant people, never care about. The hearts of these people can be tolerant of others, and know how to respect others.
Personally ask each other questions. Some people like to colleagues behind that is not, in fact, this may well not necessary, the saying goes, not an unventilated wall, your words will one day spread to the ears of others, so hurt you. Your contacts wealth will be some impact. Therefore, regardless of who views must face raised, not the finger poke in the back, so easy to hurt feelings.
Chaos snitch. Sometimes, perhaps you find a colleague to make some things that hurt the credibility of the company, you will be immediately reported to the boss, the boss must be very happy, because for him to restore the loss. But we are advocating is chaos snitch, not to say that can not play, but that can not be swatting. That is to have the fact that according to, and the problem is more serious, a direct impact on the reputation and interests of the company, call too late. Chaos snitch can always find many reasons to report it, something like this once okay, more often not only colleagues, even the boss will hate you. In fact, a lot of time to get along and colleagues to know how to "forbearance step to a brighter future calm, so that one-third." Noble words to deal with the relationship between colleagues. Let us under the premise of principled, open-minded, ushering in an era of our benevolence, and tolerance of our colleagues, friends, relatives and lovers.
Whether and colleagues what had happened, we must first think is not wrong, if you determine their own right, then they would stand on each other's point of view, to experience each other's feelings. At the same time, to know how their own efforts to adapt to the environment, rather than allowing the environment to adapt to you. Although this is a very painful process, but telling your contacts accumulation of wealth is very good. Therefore, the process of getting along and colleagues, you learn to be generous, if you care for their generous very generous, do not want to have to pretend to be generous. Only of benefit to you absolutely.
Know how to low-key work. Some people like sesame big achievements to brag about how big a thing, and then go around preaching. In fact, this is most colleagues look down on and do not like, after all, everyone at work, who have a score, why advocating for the results of that little bit? The low-key point there is nothing wrong with not only not to their enemies, but also to make their work more confidently. So you not only like by superiors, colleagues will respect you more and more wealth for your network of contacts coupled with a tile.
Of course, we here speak of a low-key is not to encourage you to do the old cattle that focusing instead on hard work, but do not own achievements and splash. Colleagues should be transformed into a point of view, and colleagues, mouth sweet to know how to praise others, because your praise always makes people produce feelings of euphoria, but to maintain a certain degree, do not praise over the people aversion . If you really can not praise others, it would keep the most basic courtesy. Met with my colleagues want to make a greeting such as, say hello to looking at each other's eyes, to make people feel for your kind.
Whether you are experienced and older employees, or out at first glance to novice must maintain Shaoyueduozuo style of work. To do so is to enhance the wealth of contacts the most basic protection of gratitude is the most beneficial to you to enhance the wealth of contacts means and methods, because of your Thanksgiving each other can understand, the other will be your grateful and touched, and thus more like to help you. Of course, in the process of getting along and colleagues, we should pay attention Do not promise to each other, others do not put your commitment to always keep in mind.
Chapter 7 contacts management tips
Draw contacts MAP has not the original that not prepared for the future to seek help before the establishment of interpersonal times. Today's society we call "interpersonal relationships" not only stay in the "know" each other, but also more than maintain the relationship with classmates and fellow. More than a little care to the people around friendship and affinity for the people to determine, and travel frequently to communicate, to make your life more colorful ... This is the basis of the network of people we really need.
Saying so, in order to systematically manage their own network, then it is best to first start from an inventory of their existing interpersonal status. Inventory work the most objective and most systematic way is to draw a map of the network of people. If the review only in the brain, it is inevitable there will be errors, can not accurately see your current interpersonal situation. Again, if you draw the map of the network of people, then can one grasp the network of contacts in what areas of inadequate.
Drawing the map of contacts, first draw a circle on their own behalf, and this circle as the center, their relationships to the classification of "family member" Friends "colleague" radially arranged around. In this case, their own in the end piece of the field of interpersonal good piece of children poor interpersonal relationships in the field is very clear. And activities in the field who need help the most. Well, now, please prepare an A4 paper and a pen, according to the following tips to draw their own network map.
First stage: "I draw more than one branch, and the relationships of classification to draw up a circle, representing the" I ", then this round draw for the center branch, branch number and match the number of interpersonal classification own interpersonal categories were filled to the various branches. Interpersonal relationships to the "family" friends "colleagues" in this standard classification, first probably divided into 10 categories, then each category of a small subdivision. With pictures such as Figure 91. More detailed table can refer to the author of the examples cited in section 92, 93.
Year, the best network of people around the map twice finishing. For example, the author's situation in early December each year and early June will be a network of map drawing. Because I believe that the map of the network of people in early December on the year's interpersonal situation summary map of the network of people in early June you may say as interannual middle of the first, so necessary. Of course, because everyone is different, so you should choose the most suitable for their time. But not necessarily twice a year. Is also a good way to draw in accordance with the inter-annual. Draw a map of a year-end contacts the New Year as the old year summary to help you and you help people to send greeting cards, and then or a year, map finishing in a network of more than 2 times. This is to grasp the interpersonal state standard.
If you have to write the daily notes of the contacts management habits, can draw the map of a network of management in a notebook First, this will always remind you of interpersonal adjustment, your relationships continue to be replenished and repair.
Phase II: analysis after the completion of a network of resource contacts map to figure relationships to make a simple evaluation. Bring you much impact as you quoted relationships and the closeness of an individual's how. Then analyze the relationships of that time to good or there are any questions, do some self-praise and self-examination. Please answer the following questions, and hope that we do while the theme to be more specific analysis of their network resources.
Contact management tips a past relationships you have at any time about to come out to help you solve problems you can talk about anything you?
With the original relationship between students how?
Contact relationship with former colleagues or your career?
What festivals and others? And that there needs to meet the personal things?
Now how interpersonal and colleagues now? Get along well? Work by others to trust? Who have hostile relations and their own?
And had had business contacts with their still kept in touch?
Do you participate in occupational areas where the social circle? In that social circle is in what position? In that social circle was active in it? You are the person in charge or the leader in that social circle?
Have you participated in your personal areas of concern to or about your personal interests, activities or social circle?
The third stage: Be sure not to forget to familiarize yourself with the people they want to know everyone veins map should not only remember the next family, friends, colleagues, and must remember they want to know famous people. Regardless of the well-known politician, radio figure, as long as necessary, at any time to look for him to meet with.
The idea, then go to practice, practice, and interpersonal relationships will be formed. There is no need to think too complex, the old push it back. Especially for the young generation of 20-year-old Korean. I listed the list of people recently to see side. I want whenever I want to see him (her) side. And now this practice. Do not hesitate to list their own to see a list of persons, will be realized!
To pick up the broken relationships "rare". When in a vacuum environment, we strongly feel the preciousness of the air; when the world becomes dark, we learned the importance of the sun; Similarly, when desperate, we can wake up: the original relationships is so important. Interpersonal relationship in fact is not often refers to looking for a stranger with their form a friend. Friends, colleagues, teachers there have been at your side may be a variety of reasons, and you lose contact, and you are now in the eyes of contacts objectives have equal importance, the same should become a huge network of contacts in your personal relationships resources. So treasure them regain and the link between them. This new set up a network of equally excellent. Even now, can not directly see them, you can also fight for the opportunity to meet with them by telephone, letter or e-mail, simple and convenient way. I hope the flexibility to use the tools of modern information society.
However, when in contact with an old friend of many years, should pay attention to this point. Seen for many years suddenly come to a contact (and often passionate), from the other side's point of view, usually puzzled than pleased. For example, "Do want me to buy insurance?", "Does not want me to give him what guarantees" the suspicion will be followed. The illusion will be prejudiced, created major obstacles to the exchange between you and your friends. Lost contact for a long time, people can easily go back to the familiar level, but the feeling of being used because it is easy to give. Before contacting old friends, the best re-read the management philosophy of the previously mentioned seven kinds of contacts again, and see an old friend of the moment, as seen in a TV show, friendly called out ", an old friend, long time no see!"
So what about the most appropriate to meet old friends, it? Although it is difficult to give a definitive answer, but holidays like New Year or Christmas period should be a good time to contact an old friend. Naturally to the other party to send a card or greeting cards, ask the current situation, certainly received the other equally sincere greetings and good wishes. If there is no time to meet with each other, often send e-mail or SMS is also good, What is the connection stronger 10 times, 100 times. Because the practice is more important than anything. Up from the usual little bit of care to start building relationships it will be more solid. Care mentioned here refers to the other party will not be allowed to produce affordable help. If you insist on giving six times to accept the "attitudes and other exchanges, they could eventually build unbreakable clock network.
Never to 40, 50-year-old period to regain this has been broken relationships, because then it becomes difficult to almost its difficult. In today's society, more and more people prefer to be with the younger generation of 20-year-old during the exchanges. Because the interaction with the 20-year-old period of the younger generation is a real cordial exchanges do not need to care about the conditions and environment. As, in the us and the small, high school students to meet, will feel very happy, because it makes us think of 5 years, 10 years ago, The Age of Innocence.
Build your own online personal space, to make friends is not only a trend, or an effective management of contacts through an online personal space. Through an online personal space, you can blink time to the country and the world in every corner of people know what can be described as a unique means of propaganda. And the most special is that this propaganda tool is absolutely not affected by time and geographical constraints.
On the Internet, regardless of the men and women can be anywhere at any time and have a common hobby interest to exchange and share information. You can easily and each other become close, become friends, do not take into account issues such as whether you give the other party to provide information valuable.
Chapter 8 contacts management utility 6 strokes
Contacts management philosophy: In order to find more topics, as much as possible to read materials in various fields of knowledge and the conversations of others is an opportunity. Accumulation of experience, master the techniques to seize the conversation atmosphere. More contact with attractive people, and actively learn from them as much as possible to the party.
The young people of South Korea's 20-year-old period, up to now, you have participated He kind of party? Do you have experience in gathering themselves? If you have never had this experience, you should peruse this book more than three times, and conscientiously put into practice according to the book said. However, most of the period of 20-year-old young people in school or work process, whether voluntary or in accordance with the meaning of others, should have participated in dozens of wide variety of gatherings. This is a lot of people preferred a method of expanding interpersonal contacts. Because the party can communicate with many people the opportunity to get a lot of information.
Recently, Internet-centric online personal space and online forums are very popular. Most Internet users who visit online forums online and participate in various activities of the Forum to know each other, and then organize the party out of the network in real life, and meet each other. Try to join the forum of interest, in order to establish online interpersonal relationships. As usual to participate in the party interest, flat mentality and actively participate in and be familiar with this means of communication. If it is taboo to this online forum to make friends then, through the recommendation of friends or acquaintances to participate in similar forms of party it does not matter. This gathering of friends in person test has been confirmed, so its reliability and effectiveness of it will be even greater.
In addition to expand your interpersonal circle in a variety of party, should have a certain purpose. Because the purpose of gathering not the exchange, but simply to stay on the low level of "chat". Such gatherings is difficult to sustainable gone out of existence. Must be borne in mind, not the spirit of the thin "should expand the interpersonal circle," the purpose of communicating with others, as will be easily and to generate alert mental. So the party, we must always remember that only a show true to establish reliable relationships with each other.
At the party about the following purposes:
Business-related purposes from among the party to find the purpose of self-worth with others, the purpose of sharing information is not particularly clear sense of purpose, no matter what want to try to try a variety of purposes of the above comparison, four more extend the life of the party, the party long gone out of existence.
To only focus on the immediate interests of long-term perspective in interaction with others is the right way. The base of a network of management "and appreciate each other" attitude. On the basis of trust and appreciation of the exchange of information with each other, help each other is sensible.
A network of management philosophy: as much as possible to the party, including the gathering of friends or acquaintances not only for the purpose of immediate interest to the party, many people are in order to meet their own immediate interests to think about building relationships. So most people do not have any plans in interpersonal communication, only to think before going to their advantage when interacting with others. Interpersonal most taboo is purely for the benefit of to "use" of interpersonal relationships. Such behavior and even let you now have connections to instant collapse, fall short.
On how to establish good interpersonal this problem, many people are baffled. Often meet others, also out for a drink, why no result? In fact, to meet and drink is not critical, the most important thing is to meet or drink with each other sincere. If there is no sincere exchange of words, regardless of experience with what, there will not be much sense; regardless seen once or dozens of face, the other will want to "Why should I meet with this person?" You both to meet the meaning of the heart is suspected. Best embodies the authenticity of this meet is natural not artificial movements in the exchange.
The majority of people in line with the principle of "selfish", even though the initial meeting with others, and very easy to fall into the whirlpool of self-centered, you can not make people trust. This is because too eager to obtain. Should be aware of the pay after the return is the truth. In other words, only a lower profile given to others, in order to obtain the corresponding return from others.
Lower profile, for the sake of each other "should learn to care and listen to the start.
A network of management philosophy: learning to their idols around you that allows you to issue such a sigh, "How can so extensive as that individuals as well as contacts A"? If so, put that person as the object of imitation. He will have a great influence. In general, the ability of others to imitate objects can give you that direction to establish interpersonal relationships, and mastery of specific areas of expertise, organized party cohesion can be said that strongman family.
If there are such people around, or have access to such people, which will become a great advantage for you to establish interpersonal relationships.
First of all, if the surrounding particularly powerful contacts management experts, to him as his idol, and imitate him. Learn how interpersonal relationships, how to treat others, the call should be to comply with what etiquette and contact management practice. Is still in embryonic form in the vein network of the 20-year-old period, should learn to imitate others, and the formation of the administrator of a similar pulse mode. Because this mode after others certainly is faster to establish a good network of shortcuts.
Side worthy of imitation, if not give you much good luck, but certainly not let you down. If there is no such person should be good to find and close to its 3 tips close to the idol. Here are three tips is not a recognized tips or principles, but is also essential to understand matters.
3 tips close to the idol looking for one worthy of imitation? Want to, do not wait any longer, do actively seeking preparation. "No you can not," with a sense of urgency to go close to them. Directly or indirectly, to tell them how important it is for you, they. Good, let us now with this mood and determined to learn the specific guidelines for how close to the idol!
E-mail or write to introduce themselves to the idol of their choice is the most important thing to him. If the person who you are do not know, let each other to give you guidance on the management of the network of people, too inconsiderate. Of course, even if you do self-introduction, the other side of you not familiar with even ignorant, in this case, enabling the exchange to smooth down the way is to write a letter or e-mail. Although personally since the letter of the book's most effective, but sending mail is also a good way. "What is more concerned about, I do not know how you see it? Want to hear your opinion or advice so you wrote this letter and other forms can. But also in the letter should briefly introduce yourself.
Close to the idol through direct or indirect introduction easy and can make their idols to produce a deep impression on their own way is through direct or indirect introduction. Require indirect introduction to each other, you can also find each other in places such as schools or seminars in person directly to introduce yourself to people they know. Introduced by others, contact idol greatest benefit is to introduce to you the highlights your strengths. Of course, this time there is a problem in order not to introduce you and your worship disappointed, you should lead by example.
Easily and briefly for the first time to meet the first meeting is not necessary Exhausted. Finally saw his idol would like a little longer and his mood is understandable, but should be aware of interpersonal like food. There should be slowly savor its taste and incense of such pursuits.
If you have been kept saying things makes the great burden of sitting there for a long time, but will have a great reaction. Just say a few words like "take up your valuable time I am sorry," a simple greeting, and let him remember you on the line. Should be important after this. Interpersonal relationships after the first meeting is really tricky. With others to build relationships is a protracted war. Must not be anxious.
Let us easily into battle. Chew every word said by own example, even though he gently over the area. You will harvest most of the words. If possible, try to recognize other people through the introduction of the idols. 99% of the idol introduce people are as good as your idol, or a better person. Why do people want to meet other people this way? The following examples will be described the introduction of an important figure and the importance of their mutual understanding.
A network of management philosophy: good at giving and accepting the fundamental path of a network of management is "Give and Take (giving and receiving)". People usually pay after will want to get something, or get from elsewhere will want to give each other what. This is the normal psychology of the people. The psychological management of the network of people, this "give and receive" certainly applies. Network of people do not "from the other side there?" Such a standard to evaluate each other, and should cultivate that person and I can give each other each other? "Management philosophy. Contacts management, tend to "give" or "accepting" any party will not be tolerated.
Although no distinction or distinction in the career, but in highly educated people have this master may be on the society of the city cleaner, the employment situation is obvious is very serious. At present, differences in ability between people is getting smaller and smaller, the competitiveness and influence of the interpersonal relationship is good or bad start to reveal the head and feet and are growing wider. In such a social situation, the solid and extensive relationships is no doubt that the weapons of the people in the hands of the most convincing.
If a good grasp of the weapon, then obviously both sides are very favorable. So learn to give and accept it. Accepted must be given to double. Made a big open secret "contacts management of people's", Jinnan Xi president of the guests introduced a network of management of the essence of the four rules can be described as a network of management.
Related to the management of the network of people giving and accepting the concept of the need to pay attention to the point. Even if you think some of your "circle Azeri" is not what you need, please comply with the minimum etiquette in front of them. Because maybe in the future, you will need them. If the rash to treat them, then it is easy to make between you and misunderstanding, and later to save too late. To be fair and you have contacts for each individual, and often give them greetings and caring.
The CEO of a large U.S. companies have said such a thing, "if others give more than the expectations of others, you will be more than you expect.
A network of management philosophy: not asking for anything to help others whether we accept the little things or big help of others, or under someone else's favor, we will say "the other day owe a certain human feelings, the next must also the job "or" before ** introduced certain to me, really helped me a great big favor, "and other similar words. This priceless debt help is with money can not be measured. In other words, this debt is to the people around without paying for best. "Because of personal feelings, and help others." Casual help this idea is wrong.
Without asking the spirit of helping others is very important. To really to do in practice so it is not easy, so be able to do without asking the people will gradually emerge in the crowd and the last champion. Others on this try to dedicate admiration for granted. Some people may think that this is not asking for anything to try to dedicate the spirit of ordinary people is difficult to have, because people are selfish. But in fact help others is no loss of profit, as long as a common attitude towards these do extraordinary things. If you are not asking for anything to help others you do not have a loss, why not? I give 1% of each other with the help of maybe will become 99% of each other the power. And counterproductive forces will redouble back.
Should also do so: if not you are responsible, should also like to treat themselves the things that make every effort to assist each other in the school or company. To keep in mind, to help others should not be asking for anything. Because they help others, while the other side to return to their own words or eyes is absolutely not. Do not say any such words, there will be recycling 200% of the effect, but such words or do these eyes, the recycling effect will be reduced by 50%. So do not be silly. The mentality has not asking for anything to help others is the most beautiful and precious thing in human relations.
Contacts management philosophy the passionate accumulation of contacts to do anything, if not full of enthusiasm, then take the first step is very difficult. Interpersonal relationships, too, the positive and enthusiastic attitude towards the establishment of interpersonal relationships first step has a vital role. But after reading this book can really do such people have several? If you are aware of the need for management of contacts, then showed his enthusiasm and sincerity, whether the early accumulation in the network of people has become the most important key to open the contacts management door.
Should first have the idea that "interpersonal really is necessary. I sincerely hope that at any time with the inscription to make friends". Waiting for someone to introduce a friend to you, or think is the end of interpersonal relationships with others to meet the number of meetings the same with the number of friends, etc. are wrong. Just simply shake hands with others reversed the practice of the card does not work on interpersonal
When interacting with others, should be enthusiastic, to achieve once the opportunity arises, they can apart from anything else stepped forward to accost the degree of job. Let's look at an interesting example. Most of the Korean will not take a train or aircraft with the stranger next to say a word, like the enemy, the whole trip abruptly there. But some other countries, asked to strangers sitting next to a good or simply chat to a few, are very common phenomenon. In fact, by train, bus or plane the middle of that trip of several hours is an excellent opportunity to build relationships, but we are not aware of nothing. For example, about 10-20 minutes after starting, simply ask each other where to go, Where is that place where relatively fun an easy topic, you can perk up the whole atmosphere. Conversation, eat some snacks, and after the end of the conversation, read a book, listen to music, neither will be a burden, but also make the entire journey to become relaxed and happy together. Such as occasional overseas travel in order to change the mood, they can and people with destinations such chat. Regular journey dialogue allows you to such things no longer feel so embarrassed, and gradually become natural to them.
I had a few years alone to go to Moscow to play and. The plane trip there, I like most Korean quiet seated. Aircraft to take off after a few minutes, the gentleman sitting next to him suddenly whispered in English asked the sentence better. I heard the other to speak in English, first threw a Jiling very nervous. Later found out the other side is the original Japanese, so they slightly relax a little, also asked in English. Then in broken English with each other between the author and who the Japanese will start a dialogue, although the two sides talked very strenuous, but the author, this really is a both interesting and meaningful travel.
That travel is one thing so I was very moved. Was the first to go to Moscow travel, and alone, so I worry about from the airport to the city section of track, I do not know, in unfamiliar circumstances, how to walk the distance. Sitting next to the gentleman know, they say in the city, he has been booking a hotel, will start to set out his past, and said that if there is no relationship, and go with him. So I will be very easy to solve this troubled by the problems of their own for a long time. Later I learned that the guests Japanese acorn County, a lawyer. I also now a year and his friend several times the e-mail exchanges, mutual ask current situation. Thing, I understand, even the small time we met, it should be warm treatment. 20-year-old younger generation should be borne in mind that sincerity can affect even metal and stone, learn enthusiasm of others.
Tip a network of management errors corrected I know people are introduced to somebody, I will not be jeopardized?
Too many people cherish established relationships that do not want to know the person to others, because they usually there is no such psychological "I introduced after they recognize the relationship between them than the relationship between me and closer to how to do? " In fact, this is a misunderstanding. The impression of professional consultants Li Zongshan said relationships are muscle, ie, the texture is more detailed and less likely to be torn between them to connect more closely force more powerful. So when should not hesitate to do they turn their acquaintances to others, because your "generous" you can make your relationships more developed.
Wine and golf, the viewer is not aware that it will destroy your relationships!
Wine and golf. Many people will think this is the best way to establish interpersonal relationships. But do not forget it is also possible to become "the worst". A smart businessman does not generally simple in order to enhance the feelings and the other with each other to drink or play golf. In order to properly "evaluate" and "judge" the other side. Because if the wine is drunk, or lost in the game of golf, do not use rational thinking and vision to observe each other. True to the cause of mistakes, regret it can not buy. So wine and golf, sometimes irreparable, "the worst way."
Listen to the little story
[Story] one silver during the war, a young soldier rushed to the battlefield on his way to save the one you want the woman committed suicide by jumping into a river after the woman was put ashore, not only did not thank the young people, and blame the youth to harm her living death under the youth repeatedly asked women talents tells heartbroken himself: that her husband was being entrapped by imprisonment, at home, leave the Diocese of the elderly and sick, and three of their starving the little children need to serve the dependents, it is regrettable utterly destitute, poor cone stand, had to pawn the only clothing got a silver, treatment of the mother's festering, that know the leaking drain every rain, treacherous businessmen fake silver deceive her, cut off in this way out home, but a death in order to break.
Youth after listening to spontaneously rise compassion, said to her: "You happened to be too compassionate, I have a silver dollar, you get back to settle the family in order to prevent another hazard as well as others, to leave of silver to me! "youth took the fake silver, inadvertently pick a release, the expedition went to the body pocket.
Happened to play in a fierce war, the hail of bullets under a bullet to shoot in the chest of young people to the site stood a fake silver, fake silver sag down, but to save the life of youth, the youth so clapping and praise, said: so worth the dollar was the daughter of hard to change ah! "youth due to the good of an idea, a silver dollar to save the woman's family, but also for their own earn back the second half of life.
